HE Said (John):
Have you ever wondered why some guys have all the luck? A beautiful woman, a great job, big house, the time to go on vacation or getaways, it seems like they have it all. Just lucky right? What if you could discover a way to get what you want, anything at all?
Well the first step to getting what you want, is to know what you want. A great way to help define exactly what you want is to create a Dream Board. That is a poster board or large piece of paper with images and words of your specific dreams, goals, and aspirations.
SHE Said (Robyn):
Dream Boards can be whatever you want them to be. It can consist of pictures, cut outs, models, words or any image that you want. As Jack Canfield talks about in his book, The Success Principles, be specific. If you want to go on a vacation, then research resorts in the country you want to visit and find an image of the specific resort you plan to visit. Your mind doesn’t know what you want; it just goes after what you visualize.
You should put this dream board in a place where you see it when you wake up and before you go to bed. I put mine on the mirror in my bathroom between my sink and my wife’s sink, we didn’t share very well the first year of our marriage so two sinks was on our mental dream board before we built this house. We put it on the bathroom mirror so we can both look at it while we get ready in the morning and before we go to bed at night.
The mind is a very powerful tool and will work towards these goals and thoughts even while you sleep. In the Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich, Hill said, “If you can conceive it and believe it, you can achieve it.” That book was written in 1937 and only came as a result of twenty years of research on the wealthiest men in the world. If it worked for the wealthiest men in the world I figured, what the heck, I could give it a try. Believe it or not I was excited to work on this dream board based on a few books that had promoted the idea. I told Robyn that I wanted to make a dream board and she was so excited to work on this project with me. It made a great date activity and we shared lots of laughs and even scratched our heads at some of the things that each other was cutting out to put on the board. And fellas, I also found out that this type of quality time is well rewarded.
Anyone can make a dream board! I had the most fun creating my most recent dream board with my husband and partner in life, John. This process allowed me to discover more specifically what John desires, wants out of life, and specific goals he wants to attain – that he hadn’t communicated.
The first two dream boards that I made, I put in my office; however our masterpiece is pasted on the mirror in our master bathroom. We are able to look at it every day -when we’re home! John and I both travel lots – for work and pleasure. As an Auctioneer John is gone more than I am, so our time together is measured by quality, not quantity. This schedule works for us, as we both love to experience new culture and see the world. Having our Dream Board in a shared space, allows us to visualize our joint goals often and do actions that get us closer to achieving them together.
July 2009 while I was away, I received a call from my husband. “I want to make a Dream Board with you!” My jaw dropped – were my ears dirty? I was completely shocked. I had constantly dripped my positive energy and dream big mindset on him for over four years and did NOT see this coming at me. This amazing desire hit me like a train – I was overwhelmed with emotion – it “may” have been around that time of the month and I was overly sensitive and emotional! However, I knew deep inside that I had been attracting this moment for three or five years. When you get married to your soul mate, everything is perfect the day you get hitched. Then reality sets in, challenges face you, bills are due, and life blinds your dreams – when you least expect it. As a new wife, I constantly tried to keep our connection fresh and intellectual. John not only accepted, but instigated the energy I was craving.
Only people who are serious about improving their current living conditions or achieving success should invest their time in looking on the Internet or through magazines for pictures that depict their dreams or things they want to achieve or obtain. It can take as long or short as you want and should be specific. My wife and I spent about an hour going through magazines and cutting out pictures and printing pictures from the Internet. The hardest part was actually sitting down and doing it; once we started we had a lot of fun and learned a few things about what each other’s dreams were.
I had to laugh because it seemed that everything John picked to put on our board – was a material item. While I was selecting lots of the things I wanted to experience. My husband spent hours looking on the company websites to find images of the exact items he plans to own – to name a few, his private jet, and custom motor coach.
I put the logo for Rosetta Stone on my board because I wanted to learn Spanish, being from Texas I had the basics down but wanted to become fluent. As a result of my dream board I now have Rosetta Stone and am still working to improve my Español.
Examples of what I included:
- A Copper West logo (brand of a company) that we own that John and I are re-launching.
- A woman with the face cut out wearing a gorgeous red strapless gown, which I plan to wear to my car presentation, when our Arbonne team promotes in the near future.
- A camera and the phrase, “Pursue Your Passions”: Photography; which represents my desire to take a class on taking photos.
- A written list of different goals that I didn’t have images to represent yet.
Many items we included – we chose together. A picture of an Austin Stone style bungalow home with an outdoor swimming pool represents our desire to have a home in Texas and Alberta. That way, we can travel back and forth to spend time with both of our families.
Just remember your mind is the only limiting factor, so dream big. Be specific. Put it where you will see it daily, and most importantly have fun with it. If you have a partner to share your life with you should build your dream board together. This is a great way for guys to communicate what we are thinking, since we are not always the most eloquent in expressing our thoughts, and ladies back me up on this, women are not mind readers. As we learned early in our marriage it is important for both of us to be on the same page, headed in the same direction. (But that is another story in itself) We can achieve more together than we ever could apart.
If you know what you want, and work towards it, you can Dream your way to the Good Life.
John & Robyn Beazley
Debuting our first “She Said/He Said” blog entry from my fabulous husband and I! (This post follows – Dreaming).